Austin and Khaylen

From Khaylen:

How did you feel about premarital/marriage mentoring before you started meeting with us? How did you feel once you got started?

I was very apprehensive about the premarital mentoring beforehand. I wasn’t sure where I stood in terms of my religious beliefs and thought I may be judged for that. I was concerned that it wouldn’t be meaningful and helpful to our marriage and life based on experiences other friends had with premarital mentoring in other settings.

Once we began all my fears were abated. There was zero judgement regarding my beliefs or lack there of. There was thoughtful discussion throughout and my husband and I have revisited the teachings again and again over our now 11 years of marriage. We would not be where we are today without having gone through the premarital mentorship with Tom and Ruth Ann.

What did you find to be most valuable about our times of meeting?

I found it very valuable to have both a male and female perspective from a couple that was very open an honest about their own relationship. The conversation and teachings were grounded in real life experiences. No subject was off limits and no issue or potential issue too big to tackle.

Have you seen changes in how you relate to each other? If so, please explain.

This created a firm base on which our marriage stands. We continually think about what Tom and Ruth Ann have taught us and how they would handle situations that we encounter. My husband and I have renewed our commitment to each other every year we have been married and for most years, Tom and Ruth Ann have been a part of that. Its very special that we continue to learn from them.

What would you say to someone who is unsure about doing premarital/marriage mentoring?

Do it!! There are no regrets. Marriage is very hard work that doesn’t end when you say “I do” but just starts at that point and you need tools and teachings to overcome situations you encounter. This mentorship had given us those tools and we have used them time and time again.

Is there anything else that you would like add?

“Thank You” will never be enough to express our gratitude